Denial makes the world go round

There is an interesting article in International Herald Tribune today.

It is called Denial makes the world go round, and you can read the full article here: http://www.iht.com/articles/2007/11/20/healthscience/20deni.php

Basically this article is about denial, and how it is crucial for building and nourishing relationships, even when it is potentially destructive. It is actually a highly-evolved psychological response to deal with disappointment and betrayal we face on a daily basis.

A research shows that people often idealize their partners, overestimating their strengths and playing down their flaws. Examples of these include seeing jealousy as passion, stubbornness as a strong sense of right and wrong, and so on. It does make sense to me, but I am curious to know where do they actually draw the line between jealousy and passion. Is it even possible to have a clear line between them? Ah well, I do not know the entire research methodology to conclude anything.

"The evidence suggests that if you see the other person in this idealized way, and treat them accordingly, they begin to see themselves that way, too," Murray said. "It draws out these more positive behaviors."

Really? Haha. Sometimes I am amused by what scientists try to tell us. No, I am not disagreeing with this, I simply find it amusing. :)